When your child surfaces that they are different, here are some things you can say and do:
"Thank you so much for sharing this with us."
"We are sorry you have had to hold this knowing on your own until now, but from here forward we will hold it together"
"We love you so much."
"I can't wait to share with you how beautiful your lineage is. I can't wait for you to meet Carl and Siobhán, and all the other great people in our network! They are here for you too, and can share with you more about your lineage."
"You are not alone. You will soon be connecting with other kids just like you, and we will be working as a family to make sure you have those opportunities now and going forward".
"Being queer is a great gift, but you are also still a member of this family, and need to do your chores and homework."
Before and during puberty, "The needs of your body may be different. There are options for you, and we can explore them together".